Feeling Stressed in College? It’s OK to Ask for Help
College brings a lot of new changes: new classes, jobs, relationships, and—in most cases—new independence. That freedom can be exciting, but it can also make us feel like we need to handle things on our own. After all, we are adults now, right?
While many perceive adulthood and asking for help as mutually exclusive, it’s important to recognize that everyone needs help from time to time. That’s a clear marker of maturity—and one that ultimately allows us to overcome the obstacles we face (and we all know college is full of obstacles).
Finding the Best Solution Starts with Asking
From simply raising your hand when you feel lost in class to finding a study buddy, there are many ways to find support and prevent stress from snowballing.
But what if you already feel overwhelmed by stress?
“While much of college is about learning degree-specific skills, it’s also about learning life skills,” says Torrence Wimbish, PhD, CMHC, program manager of the at the University of Utah. “These skills—like critical thinking, teamwork, and perseverance—help us far beyond college, regardless of what we are studying or where we end up. Asking for help is one of these skills.”
Most college campuses have support services for students, including mental health, which is usually free or available at a steeply discounted price. From individual counseling to group therapy, you can often find therapeutic modalities that fit your needs. Additional supplemental campus services—like peer tutoring, food pantries, and fitness centers—can help you further target the causes of your stress.
The Power of Technology
Sometimes, college can lead to feelings of isolation. For many students, this is their first time away from family, and living in a new place can feel unsure. Tools like instant messaging and social media can help us stay in touch with family and friends, but they can also help find new ones. Check out your college’s website, calendars, and social media pages to learn more about events and opportunities to get involved. These types of connections are important for maintaining a sense of belonging and positive mental health.
Technology can also provide a more direct way to engage with our mental health. “While the internet is full of websites, apps, and other resources specifically geared toward mental health,” Wimbish says, “it also opens the door for the spread of inaccurate information and unreliable sources.”
Remember those critical thinking skills we are building here at college? Make sure to put them to the test whenever you are online. If you see something that looks off, you can always seek guidance or clarification from a mental health professional on campus.
“Students may be drawn to online resources due to the anonymity they afford,” Wimbish says. “But it’s important to know that in-person, on-campus resources can afford the same level of anonymity while also guaranteeing expert insight that is more personalized. This takes the guess work out of the information you’re receiving.”
Creating the Culture
Throughout history, college campuses have acted as breading grounds for bold, new ideas and social movements. Whatever you are feeling or experiencing, other students can likely empathize. So, start a conversation. The more we normalize conversations about mental health and asking for help, the more we help break down stigma and create a space where everyone can succeed.
